Parental Care Primer For Baby Boomers

Baby Boomers becoming caregivers for one or both of their parents face a challenging and rewarding responsibility. If you are in this group, you belong to a fast growing segment of the Baby Boomer population. Elder care is difficult, but giving back support and love to your parents can create a special time that brings you closer.

Here is some sage advice gained through experience that will help Baby Boomers in this journey:

Recognize that your roles are switching – you are becoming the parent as they hand over more responsibility and authority over their lives to you. The time will likely come when you have to make decisions for them.
Sit down with your parent(s) and have a frank discussion about how they would like to spend their “golden years.”
Make sure your parent(s) have a Living Will, so that their wishes can be carried out as they approach death (e.g., do not resuscitate or unnecessarily extend life by artificial means). Many hospitals will not let you make decisions for your parent(s) unless you are so appointed in a Living Will.
As a related caregiver, you should have a notarized Power of Attorney that allows you to make decisions if your parent(s) are incapable of doing so. It is also a good idea to become a joint account holder on their bank accounts and investments. If your parents have a living trust, you should be named as successor trustee, so you can step in as financial manager if needed.
If necessary, help them set up a system to ensure that bills are paid on time.
If you are concerned about a parent’s ability to continue driving, talk to their doctor or notify the local Department of Motor Vehicles (which may be able to require a driving test).
Have a written list of all the medications your parent(s) use, including dosage. Know how to contact their primary care physician. Have copies of their insurance records. This is very important information for emergency room personnel and hospitals.
Discuss funeral and internment wishes with your parent(s).
In a tactful way, help your parent(s) sort through their belongings. Whom would they like to receive special items? What can be gotten rid of?
Make sure your parent(s) have a written, witnessed Will to avoid the messy, expensive and lengthy probate process. Ideally, the primary caregiver should be the Executor of the Will.
Know where all important documents are.

If you feel like you need help, there are state, local and federal senior services organizations that provide a wealth of free or low-cost services. They can provide meals, transportation, training and in-home professional services to assist you as a caregiver or to help your parent(s) continue to live independently in the community. Also, there are online service where Baby Boomers can identify and explore benefits to which they and their parent(s) are entitled. Start with the National Council on Aging which covers local, state and federal programs.

Finally, this is a precious time. Include your parent(s) in activities and let them know everyday that you love them. A caregiver’s journey creates memories that will be treasured for the rest of your life.

Parental Care For Sick Babies – Some Helpful Advice

It is completely natural for all babies to face some kind of sickness or the other for the first 3 to 4 years. There is nothing to panic about this at all. It is pretty normal for babies to fall sick, but the only point to be noted here is constant parental care and attention. You should visit a good paediatrician regularly.

The general sicknesses which babies develop are generally flu, fever, and stomach pain and once in a while when the baby suffers from loose motion. Parental care for babies should start at home, and it’s not very difficult. Babies are susceptible to dust and pollution and for the initial years they tend to catch illnesses. But as parent, you must ensure that you give the right food to strengthen its immune system.

When afflicted with stuffed nose and cough, you can use a baby cough syrup and also, tweezers to pull the stuff that blocks the nose, but only when they are asleep, as it could create a lot of discomfort. A drop of honey on their tongue could help them build their immune system.

Since pillows are not recommended for babies below 2, you can keep folded towel under its head. It is generally advisable to give babies a warm bath. Applying some balm on the chest, and also on the back will be soothing. Especially, as you apply the balm on its back give it a gentle massage. This will improve the sleep.

When babies have stomach pain, you can apply castor oil on the stomach. It works extremely well, and you can see the instant effects of the cure.

If the baby has fever, you can give warm water to drink, but not ice cold. When babies are sick, it’s natural they will cry a lot. But singing lullabies really helps them calm down and it does have a healing effect. Singing to babies has been an ancient practice in India and neighbouring countries. As soon as the baby starts to cry if it’s sleepy, or feeling sick, the mother feeds it and starts singing a sweet song, and soon the baby feels relaxed and dozes off into a nice sleep.

It is very common for babies under 18 months to get sick. Reports show that the babies under this age get sick 3 times more compared to others. So it is very important for the parents to take care of their sick babies.