Effects Of Poor Parental Care On Child Development

Parental intervention and application of moral principles can do much to mitigate these potential effects. One can then consider some of the possible effects a poorly brought up child can face. Research clearly shows that a child who lacks adequate parental instruction stands the risk of recalcitrance. A dependable study who reveals that out of ninety-four thousand cases of child delinquent behavior, about eighty percent stems from children in a household with poor parental counseling.

Relatively, the escalating risk of childhood sexual abuse in our society today results primarily from ineffective parental training and supervision. Generally, this psychological development drifts through life with no set objectives, very low sense of direction and low self-esteem as well as delinquent attitude among many children of minimal parental care.

Every Christian home must bring up a child in the way acceptable to God so that when the child grows up, he will not depart from it. This is a responsibility many biological parents deride. It therefore means that child from such irresponsible parental background may grow above his jacket and subsequently becomes a nuisance not only to the immediate community but the entire society.

Indeed, a child without adequate and sustained parental instruction or counseling is worthless and may slowly or rapidly grow into marijuana addiction, vandalism and armed robbery as well as other social vices. Little wonder why child delinquency in many developing societies is always blamed on in-effective parental upbringing.

Sometimes, these parental responsibilities are abandoned due to one reason or the other. Cases abound where some children are considered and seen as very fragile and so to be handled with care resulting, unfortunately, in over pampering. Attempting by fathers to instill discipline in such children receives negative reactions from the mothers especially when they remember and consider the labour they passed through during delivery.

Candidly speaking, this shoddy home training bestowed on a child does not usually augur well for his development. This in turn helps to promote moral decadence, which is a cog in the mechanical wheel of development of any society.

Another causative factor of poor parental care in many homes is the issue of housemaids. Apparently parental care and moral instruction are now being concentrated on the housemaids to the detriment of the biological child. There is absolute denial of basic parental training of the child from birth.To get rid of this psychological impact of poor child up bringing on the society, every biological parent must properly groom his or her children to become useful citizens by not sparing the rod and spoiling the child.

Aging Parents Care – 10 Ways to Deal With Siblings Who Don’t Help

When the health of an elderly parent starts to decline, typically one sibling who steps in to become the primary caregiver. The demands start out small. Care is easy at first. But as care demands more time and money, stress builds and so can resentment toward non-contributing family members.

Old rivalries and jealousies raise their head and get in the way. The fights are typically over money and time, the two elements contributing the most to caregiver stress. So what do you do? If you want help caring for an elderly parent, you need to convince your brothers and sisters of it or find that help outside the family. With that as a background here are 10 tips to dealing with unhelpful siblings:

1. Accept that there is no such thing as “fairness” when it comes to family care giving. Someone in the family always shoulders a disproportionate amount of the load. Life is like that. Should it be that way? No. But wishing for something different only makes matters worse.

2. Open up the lines of communication with every family member, even those you don’t always get along with. Let them decide how much they want to be involved.

3. Have a family meeting to get everyone’s view point on elder care needs. What you are seeing may not be what others see. What you think is critical may not be and visa versus. Having other viewpoints can be helpful.

4. Do it now. Waiting only makes matters worse. Don’t assume someone else in the family will take charge.

5. Put aside your “shoulds” and focus on the taking care of your elderly parents. It simply doesn’t matter what you believe your siblings should do. What does matter is getting the help your aging parent needs, whether it’s from your siblings or outside the family. The plain, simple truth is you can’t change someone else. Only they can do that. Obsessing about it and “shoulding” on them only makes your life more stressful. None of this is about you anyway. It is about managing the care of an aging parent.

6. List all of the support your parent may need. Be specific: fixing meals, bathing, managing the checkbook, grocery shopping, taking dad to the doctors appointments, calls to advisors, picking up medications, checking out caregivers or living facilities, etc.. When you need help be exact: “I have a doctors appointment next Friday and need someone to sit with mom. Could you drop by no later than 9 am for about 2 hours.”

7. Identify and contact help available in the community. You’ll need it. Expect to roll up your shirt sleeves, too. It may take a lot of phone calls to find the resources you need. Start with your local Agency on Aging and the senior ministry at your place of worship. If you live in a large city, dial 2-1-1. If you work for a larger corporation, ask your human relations department what elder care resources they offer.

8. Accept whatever help each sibling is able and willing to provide. No one knows how another person thinks or feels or what’s going on in their life. One of my clients could not understand why her oldest sister would offer to help, but frequently welched on the promise. Later she learned her sister had enormous health problems of her own but didn’t want to burden the rest of the family with it.

9. Your attitude makes all the difference. Sure, it’s hard not to be mad when no one else helps. You only hurt yourself, though. Stress is not so much what’s happening to you as it is how you respond to it. Focus attention on the positives. Be thankful for those who help if and when they do. Beyond that pay no attention to those who under-serve.

10. Use outside sources to defuse persistent emotional land mines. Consider turning to a professional elder care mediator. The specialty is relatively new. but growing. They offer a respectful solution to family conflicts over the care of an aging parent. They offer a pathway to peace and family healing.

The bottom line here is to focus only on what you can accomplish for your mom or dad. Resenting siblings for not chipping in makes you feel worse and accomplishes nothing. If it is not in your sister’s heart to help, you can’t put it there. Accept the help you get. Do what you know you can do and find outside help for the rest.